Introducing me

Welcome!

Firstly, all of the text on this website is written personally by me, not by AI. I hope that will offer you a sense of who I am.

I trained in Counselling and Psychology to Masters level, thinking those disciplines would help me understand myself and others better. It was only when I discovered trauma, and the work of Dan Siegel and Gabor Mate, that I really discovered how to do the work of deep transformation. It changed my life and I’ve continued to learn and grow.

My expertise and experience helps me to hear the beliefs causing issues and see underlying behavioural patterns in play. Usually these patterns were formed in the subconscious mind during childhood, and once we become aware of them we can change them. I use various techniques and approaches - Compassionate Inquiry, EMDR, somatic techniques and breathwork. Although I’m predominantly a talk therapist, my training in other modalities, such as Breathwork and Kinesiology, helps me to have a more holistic overview of the elements of life that affect us. Talk alone is not enough.

Whilst a diagnosis can be helpful in recognising your symptoms, I believe we need to look underneath them; at what happened to you to create those symptoms. As children we create adaptations to survive. Those adaptations were once helpful, but when they continue into adulthood they shape our world in ways which limit us. Behaviours such as people-pleasing, denial, anger, projection, anxiety, seeking approval - the list is long of the ways we behave that no longer serve us.

I teach concepts and techniques that change emotions, thoughts and behaviour - improving quality of life and relationships. This leads to a deeper sense of connection - with ourself, others and to the world we live in. I’m not a spiritual teacher, but I am spiritual. I believe without doing the work on transforming our emotions, there is a danger of spiritual bypassing and welcome people to explore this with me.

I offer safety, kindness and understanding where your most shameful parts can be safely seen and held. I’ve worked with most of life’s darker elements, including all forms of abuse and addictions. There is no judgement - we’re all walking a path and doing our best with what we’ve been given.

I have a deep understanding of narcissism - and can work with anyone who has been affected by it in anyway - including someone who recognises they have narcissistic traits and genuinely wishes to change.

I firmly believe that with the right support, anyone of us can transform our life and behaviours. You are very welcome to book a brief call with me or book a first session to see if I’m the right therapist for you.

At the present time I can only offer online services due to a relocation to Essex.